No More Mr. Nice Guy - Dr. Robert Glover - Animated Book Review: How to

No More Mr. Nice Guy - Dr. Robert Glover - Animated Book Review

In the book no more Mr Nice Guy dr. Robert Glover diagnosis some of his friends with the nice guys enjoy now person with a nice guy syndrome is known to give they like to give things they like to fix lee also like the caretaker.

There's a difference between caretaking in carrying he says I like to avoid conflict repress their feelings they don't like to talk about their emotions.He said sometimes they're dishonest quite secretive let's talk about little kids for a little bit a little kid is egocentric which means that he thinks the world revolves around him humans from a young age are very egocentric anyone under the age of 60 think the world revolves around them they will also have a large fear of abandonment and have a fear of helplessness because children can do a lot of things on their own.

So something happens like they're hungry and their mom usually season but her mom doesn't feed them building hey I'm hungry my mom's not feeling me.

I must be my fault because if they cry and no one holds them don't think it's their fault if someone gets angry at them or parent leaves the think it's their fault in this accumulated over time creates a toxic shame they think that everything they do is their fault and someone with a nice guy syndrome believes they are unlivable they must do things to be lovable he also goes into explaining that there's a difference between caretaking and caring caretaking you give to others with the giver needs to give you give because you like giving caring is giving to others because they needed they need something so you give it to them at scaring caretaking comes from a place of emptiness and the giver the others like an order for me to be happy.

I need to give some carrying on the other hand comes from a place of abundant is as hey I have a bunch of this I don't need all of it for you caretaking also has unconscious strings attached which means deep in the subconscious level the caretakers saying hey i scratch your back you scratch mine caring however is unconditional and has no strings attached fun during world war 2 a lot of fathers left the home quite interesting because we start seeing this throughout history that fathers are not there as often as they should be for their children especially their son's education system is also dominated by women which they also don't have a role model at school and sometime after ww2 feminism in the sexual revolution became a big thing young boys used to learn how to be a man from their dad and Grampa from working on the farming in closed environments he says this is what creates the nice guy syndrome to solve this problem we have to learn to please yourself first you to spend time and money developing yourself he says it's okay to be a little selfish and I like to refer to the airplane at an event when you get on an airplane but the attendances is in the case of an accident.

Put your mask on first that way you'll be better supplied to help those around you if you don't take care of yourself first not gonna be able to help those around you is a you should make your needs a priority as opposed to trying to please others and make their needs a priority in this book he talks a lot about how to learn and set boundaries how to express. Your feelings and resolve conflicts safely if you remember back before I said that the nice guy syndrome lot of people avoid conflict this is a big problem because if they're avoiding the conflict there also avoiding the resolution the basis of this book is to learn how to be selfish without being rude about it he says one way you can help reclaim your masculinity is to spend more time with guys spend more time with masculine men with muscles are gonna give out of this book is that in order to get better sex should aim to only have great sex but she is the perfect watermelon analogy.

I came up with in your life you may have eaten 3 watermelons 10 watermelons are 300 watermelons and what if you say that all of those are the best watermelons in the world watermelons are pretty good but what if you have some great watermelons and you also have some terrible rotten watermelons when you look at Watermans as a whole you're gonna be like it's ok that's good every now and then you should do the same with your sex life if you settle for bad sex it's not going to become as enjoyable and it's actually going to bring down the great sex anyways are a lot more little tips and tricks in this book that he mentions I really like and I might mention them later in a future video but for now I hope you enjoy this article and I hope you learned thanks for reading.